Archive for June, 2016

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Jun
16

book review: 5 Things Every Parent Needs to Know About Their Kids & Sex

Cover ArtAs a mom of 4 daughters, I chose to read this book to review because I hoped to find a resource to equip me in talking with them about sex. I was not disappointed by Miller’s book; it is candid, honest, and useful.

Ms. Miller is very open about her qualifications for writing on this topic. She shares about growing up as a pastor’s daughter and the sheltered life that didn’t prepare her for the real world of sex. She endured sexual abuse at the hands of a youth pastor in high school, which led her to turn to pornography and have an unfaithful relationship with a young man she was engaged to before finally breaking free by God’s grace. She is now a speaker at colleges and churches on the topic of sex, and is happily married. Her story is heartbreaking yet encouraging, as she shares how God has healed her and is using her to bring light and hope to a subject that can be intimidating and even terrifying for parents.

Ms. Miller’s 5 points center around one thing: your child is not the exception. In talking to our kids about sex, the ineffectiveness of sheltering, mainstream media offerings, pornography, and sexual abuse, she underlines the fact that avoiding talking with them in hopes of not “spoiling” our kids’ innocence will only backfire. They will learn about all these topics from someone, and don’t we want it to be us, their parents?

She explains that the best approach is not just one big conversation at some predetermined age, but a lifetime of open, respectful discussions that are age-appropriate and that can and should be initiated by both parent and child. Families should determine their values and then cover these topics in light of that. The best way to protect our children is to educate them and to prove ourselves trustworthy listeners and information givers. Ms. Miller gives very thoughtful information based on her most up-to-date research, as well as providing updates via her website 5thingsbook.com.

Each chapter ends with very practical tips (“The Bottom Line”) as well as a written interview with an expert on the topic covered within. I feel well-equipped to have meaningful conversations with my daughters, and am not intimidated by issues that may arise. I am thankful for this book and highly recommend it to parents who want to have honest, real conversations with their kids on a hard but beautiful subject.

I received a free copy of this book from Baker Books, and was under no obligation to provide a favorable review.

12
Jun
16

book review: liberating king: breaking free from the tyranny of sin

Cover ArtThis book was enjoyable and encouraging, written in a very conversational style that is easy and quick to read. Stephen Miller is a worship leader at his church, and understandably uses song lyrics to illustrate and support his points. He has many examples of people who have suffered and struggled yet held fast to the Lord who liberates.

I am personally in a valley season spiritually right now, so I was greatly excited to read this book. It was very encouraging to read about the hard times that a worship leader has had, seeing that I am not alone in my struggles. Miller is quite relatable and transparent, and I admire and respect him for that. I will be honest though, that the book didn’t leave a deep impression on me, in that I have not been left meditating on the truths he reminds of or the methods he proposes to aid the reader in breaking free.

Overall, it is worth reading and I hope to revisit it at some point. I’m thankful that there are spiritually mature people who are courageous enough to share their struggles without glossing over the fact that walking with Christ does not equal a trouble-free life.

I received a free copy of this book from Baker Books that I might review it. All opinions are my own.